Today sexuality is talked about too much without the respect it deserves, and not enough with the respect it deserves.
Marissah hanNig, reach 10 intern
Confused about the impact of pornography on relationships? Or what healthy sexuality really is?
If you’re a young adult who wants to change the culture of shame, silence, and fear around sexual issues, this podcast is for you. You’ll hear about healing lives and relationships affected by pornography – starting with real connection.
Find the podcast on these apps and tune in to courage, compassion, and connection
Episodes
Ask a Therapist Series: How to show our partner our progress in recovery? [2.6]
Allowing someone to see all the parts of you can be the scariest thing someone ever does. It is often human tendency to want to prove they are worthy or require someone to show evidence to feel safe enough in a relationship. Rachel Denton, our expert therapist, answers this question…
Keep Reading Ask a Therapist Series: How to show our partner our progress in recovery? [2.6]
Ecclesiastical Leader Series: Why meet with a bishop? with Doug Kleven [2.5]
When someone needs help, who do they turn to? Listen to find out how a bishop can help in your healing journey. Maybe it is obvious help is needed or you are coasting wondering what the next step of your healing is – either way listen to find out how…
Keep Reading Ecclesiastical Leader Series: Why meet with a bishop? with Doug Kleven [2.5]
Finding Harmony in Faith, Values, and Sexuality with Carlie Palmer-Webb [2.4]
We brought Carlie, the Christian Sex Educator, back this season to break down the gaps that keep our faith, values, and sexuality from living together in harmony. Whether someone has suppressed their sexuality or has unwanted sexual behaviors that are congruent with what they believe this episode is for them.…
Keep Reading Finding Harmony in Faith, Values, and Sexuality with Carlie Palmer-Webb [2.4]
Ask a Therapist Series: What are some good examples of boundaries and consequences if they are broken? [2.3]
Listen to learn how boundaries can bring greater connection, peace, and belonging in your relationships. Rachel Denton, our expert therapist, answers this question submitted by a listener and gives real life examples for what someone can do when wanting to set boundaries that create safety and healing in their relationships. …
Breaking Free of Isolation with Chandler Rogers [2.2]
Do you feel isolated and alone in your struggle and hurt? Chandler shares his story about breaking free of the isolation that his struggle with pornography created and how he found the courage to break free. Then he shares all about Relay an app he created to help you connect daily with…
Keep Reading Breaking Free of Isolation with Chandler Rogers [2.2]
Breaking the Silence: Back in Action [2.1]
Breaking the Silence is Back “Breaking the Silence,” a podcast by Reach 10, hosted by Crishelle Simons, is back for its second season. We aims to dismantle the barriers of shame, silence, and fear surrounding topics like sexuality, pornography, and betrayal trauma. This initiative is a beacon of hope and…
Keep Breaking the Silence: 5 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned from Young Adults with Vauna [82]
How can you join the cause of turning a weapon of destruction into a tool for transformation? This is our last episode of Breaking the Silence, but just the beginning for you to contribute to a new culture of courage, compassion, and connection. In this send-off from founder Vauna Davis,…
Celebrating Breaking the Silence with Creed, Crishelle, and Bentlee [81]
Listen along as the hosts, Creed and Crishelle, and our social media specialist, Bentlee, remember their favorite episodes of Breaking the Silence. They also share some of the lessons they learned while working on the podcast with Reach 10. In this episode: Learn to talk about pornography so you can…
Keep Reading Celebrating Breaking the Silence with Creed, Crishelle, and Bentlee [81]
Spiritual and Emotional Fitness in Recovery with Sathiya Sam [80]
While most tackle porn recovery with behavioral solutions, both scripture and science show that true recovery must address the underlying issues of the heart. Our guest, Sathiya Sam teaches that these can be reached through emotional fitness, recovery from wounds of the past, and learning to accept yourself. He has…
Keep Reading Spiritual and Emotional Fitness in Recovery with Sathiya Sam [80]
The Pillars of Healthy Sexuality with Carlie Palmer-Webb [79]
You’re going to love this discussion of healthy sexuality and the harm of pornography with Carlie Palmer-Webb, the Christian Sex Educator. Listen in to learn about the pillars of healthy sexuality and how you can begin to practice them even before being in a sexual relationship. In this episode: Love,…
Keep Reading The Pillars of Healthy Sexuality with Carlie Palmer-Webb [79]
How to Mindfully Manage Urges with Sara Brewer [78]
Whether dealing with a desire to view pornography, or other urges like eating or scrolling social media, Sara Brewer offers a mindful approach to managing them. Sara is a certified life coach who works with people who want to quit pornography. She suggests that we stop, drop, and breathe, a…
Keep Reading How to Mindfully Manage Urges with Sara Brewer [78]
How I Talked About Pornography and Lived Through It with Mackenzie Preza [77]
Because of the stigma behind women and their sexuality, talking about pornography issues can be even more difficult. We feel like we’ll die if we tell anyone we have a problem with pornography. Mackenzie Preza has struggled and learned that when women open up about their experiences, it becomes easier…
Keep Reading How I Talked About Pornography and Lived Through It with Mackenzie Preza [77]
Courage, Compassion, and Connection: The Antidote to Shame and Silence [76]
This time we’re switching roles! You’ll hear from Creed and Crishelle, our young adults hosts, talk about their own stories of breaking the silence around shame, pornography, family struggles, and other sensitive issues. They share how others can develop the courage and permission to speak up about their own questions,…
Keep Reading Courage, Compassion, and Connection: The Antidote to Shame and Silence [76]
Repentance on the Path to Recovery with Hayden & Savannah Paul [75]
“I knew the power of the Savior was sufficient to change me.”Hayden Paul When someone with a religious background is working through recovery from pornography, they may also be working through the repentance process. Hayden and Savannah Paul have seen the power of repentance in their own lives and love…
Keep Reading Repentance on the Path to Recovery with Hayden & Savannah Paul [75]
Life Beyond Recovery: How Can We Look Forward to the Future? With Taylor Chambers [74]
We have different seasons and stages. Our future doesn’t have to look like where we’re at right now. Taylor Chambers When we’re in the thick of recovery, it’s hard to see past the difficulties and imagine a bright future. It does get easier! Taylor Chambers says deciding what we want…
Keep Reading Life Beyond Recovery: How Can We Look Forward to the Future? With Taylor Chambers [74]
Turning from Porn to Love and Service: 3 Tips from a Teen with Smith Alley [73]
When you take pornography away, you have to replace it with something that is building you up.Smith Alley Smith Alley became addicted to pornography even before he was a teenager. Then his world turned upside down one day and he chose to begin a journey to recovery from pornography. As…
Keep Reading Turning from Porn to Love and Service: 3 Tips from a Teen with Smith Alley [73]
The Un-Alone Club: One Student Creating a Healing Community With Emi Bass [Episode 72]
Pornography is not just a men’s issue. And supporting someone who is struggling with pornography is not just a girl’s job.Emi bass Being a student is hard, especially when feeling alienated because of a struggle with pornography. Or maybe feeling confused about how to help a friend entrenched in this…
Keep Reading The Un-Alone Club: One Student Creating a Healing Community With Emi Bass [Episode 72]
Betrayal Trauma in Dating Relationships: Is It a Thing? With KayLee Dunn [Episode 71]
Betrayal trauma is really about me losing myself when a relationships shatters.Kaylee Dunn You’ve probably heard about betrayal trauma in marriage, but this time we’re talking about how it shows up in dating relationships and what to do about it. Therapist KayLee Dunn wants people to know they aren’t alone,…
Keep Reading Betrayal Trauma in Dating Relationships: Is It a Thing? With KayLee Dunn [Episode 71]
Therapy 101: How Can a Therapist Help You Make Progress? With Rachel Denton [70]
If your asking the question, you should be going to a therapist. Rachel Denton If we’re wondering whether we need to go to a therapist, it’s probably the time to make the jump! Rachel Denton suggests that when you do decide to start searching for the right therapist for you, look…
Keep Reading Therapy 101: How Can a Therapist Help You Make Progress? With Rachel Denton [70]
Check-Ins: How Can They Help Your Relationship? With Rhyll & Steven Croshaw [69]
We both have agency and we both get to choose.Rhyll croshaw How can you keep a close relationship with your partner? It’s as simple as A-E-I-O-U! Using a check-in based on the vowels, Rhyll and Steven Croshaw communicate every night about how they are doing in emotional, mental, and physical…
Keep Reading Check-Ins: How Can They Help Your Relationship? With Rhyll & Steven Croshaw [69]
Sponsor/Sponsee Relationships: What Makes a Good One? with Steven Croshaw [Episode 68]
A sponsor helps provide strength, hope, encouragement, and accountability.Steven crowshaw A sponsor is someone who can share their own experience of recovery through the 12 Steps and can offer hope, encouragement, accountability, and feedback. If someone knows about good sponsor relationships, it’s Steven Croshaw. After struggling with a sex addiction…
Keep Reading Sponsor/Sponsee Relationships: What Makes a Good One? with Steven Croshaw [Episode 68]
A Partner’s Pornography Use: How to Deal With Judgment from Others – With Rhyll Croshaw [67]
If I base any decision on fear, it’s the wrong one.Rhyll Crowshaw It’s no secret. Shame often follows pornography, even if you aren’t the user, especially in relationships. What are people thinking? Rhyll Crowshaw experienced this when her husband came to her with a sex addiction, and she had to…
Hiding: Are We All Fueling the Problem of Pornography? With Brigham Elton [66]
You’re going to stumble, you’re going to fall, it’s going to be ok. Saying something is better than saying nothing. Brigham Elton Talking about pornography and sex can be awkward, shameful, and even scary. In fact, many of us were taught that the best way to deal with it was to…
Keep Reading Hiding: Are We All Fueling the Problem of Pornography? With Brigham Elton [66]
Why Do Kids Hire Porn? With Kristen Jenson [65]
Kids hire porn to do a variety of jobs and the point is it’s logical and makes sense.KRISTEN JENSON Kids hire porn for a variety of jobs to help them grow up, and the surprising thing is it makes sense. Creed and Crishelle talk with Kristen Jenson, author of Good…
Keep Reading Why Do Kids Hire Porn? With Kristen Jenson [65]
Screen Culture: How Can Young Adults Live with Integrity in a Media-Saturated World? With Jason and Lisa Frost [64]
Whatever we do online spills over to our offline lives.Lisa Frost It’s easy to get sucked into your phone, tv shows, or video games and forget who you are and what you really want out of life. Jason and Lisa Frost, young authors of a new book, talk with Creed…
EMDR: How Can It Help with Overcoming Pornography? with Amanda Christenson [63]
I love EMDR because it checks all the boxes of the emotion, the belief systems, and the physiological arousal.Amanda Christenson EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) is a fascinating and effective therapy treatment that shifts stored memories and helps people not be so triggered by past trauma. It relieves emotional distress…
Keep Reading EMDR: How Can It Help with Overcoming Pornography? with Amanda Christenson [63]
Pornography Problems in Marriage: Is Compassion Possible? With Zachary and Darcy Spafford [62]
You’re going to get a lot further if you’re putting your heads together to figure things out. Zachary Spafford We all want to have connection in our marriage, especially when we struggle. Zach and Darcy Spafford discuss how to pause and step back to connect when pornography comes in between them.…
It’s Not About Me: How Can Someone Get Their Life Back When Their Spouse Struggles with Pornography? with Darcy Spafford [61]
“Stop giving pornography power in your life.”Darcy spafford Watching a spouse work through recovery can be tough. Darcy Spafford experienced this when her husband, Zach, struggled with pornography. She shares how she separated herself from his actions and learned to have compassion for him and for herself. It helped to…
How Can We Use Agency to Help Us in Recovery? With Zachary Spafford [60]
When we say we can’t do something, we abdicate our agency. We lose our ability to say yes or no.zachary spafford When struggling with something as difficult as pornography, it can be easy to feel like you no longer have a choice in your actions. But coach Zachary Spafford says…
Keep Reading How Can We Use Agency to Help Us in Recovery? With Zachary Spafford [60]
How Can I Take Charge of My Sex Education? with Lucy Ferguson[59]
It isn’t too late to get educated!Lucy Ferguson Many young adults didn’t grow up with sexuality as a frequent topic in their homes. Join Creed and Crishelle as they chat with Lucy Ferguson about their lack of sex education as youth and how to learn more about healthy sexuality as…
Keep Reading How Can I Take Charge of My Sex Education? with Lucy Ferguson[59]
Why Are Passion Projects So Powerful in Recovery? with Weston Smith and Spencer Buswell [58]
I love the idea of finding something in your life that is bigger than yourself. Spencer buswell Pornography involves a lot of inward thinking and selfishness. One way to get out of that is to look for opportunities to serve others. Finding something positive to do besides watching pornography is…
How to Invest in Each Other’s Success Through Community with Weston Smith and Spencer Buswell [57]
The expectation should not be perfection, but progression every single day.Weston smith A struggle with pornography is difficult enough, and facing it alone isn’t helpful. This week on Breaking the Silence, Spencer and Weston talk about why someone should find a community to share their goals with and how to…
What Would You Tell Your 18-Year-Old Self? and More Wisdom from Creed and Crishelle [56]
There’s so much to learn in life. You’ll always be learning. And that’s the beauty of it. Creed Orme We flipped roles and put Creed and Crishelle in the guest seats! Hear what they think is the best part of doing the podcast – and what’s the hardest part. What…
Why don’t relapses mean you’re starting over? With Geoff Steurer [Episode 53]
“Relapse is an essential part of life.”Geoff Steurer Slip-ups happen when someone views pornography even though they are trying to quit. That comes with a lot of different emotions, from shame to discouragement. Geoff Steurer, a marriage and family therapist, talks with Creed and Crishelle on how people can learn…
Keep Reading Why don’t relapses mean you’re starting over? With Geoff Steurer [Episode 53]
How Can I Learn to Communicate About Sex? with Amanda Louder [52]
You need to tap into your own integrity and what feels good and right to you, and then communicate that to whoever you’re dating or engaged to.Amanda louder As a certified sex coach, Amanda Louder teaches clients all day about how to better their sexual health, and as a mom she has experience teaching her children about topics surrounding sex. Creed and Crishelle talk with her about how to start important conversations about sex with…
Keep Reading How Can I Learn to Communicate About Sex? with Amanda Louder [52]
Can I Find Peace as My Partner Finds Recovery from Pornography Use? With Bree Swaner [Episode 51]
Once your spouse knows that you’re still going to be there for them, whatever comes out of their mouth, that you’re going to love and respect and hold space for them, then the conversations get easier.Bree Swaner Being in a relationship with someone who is struggling with pornography is not easy. That’s why when Bree Swaner found herself in that situation, she worked to create a support system so that she could properly support her husband. This week, Creed and Crishelle…
How Can Sharing My Story About Pornography Help Others? with Stephen Edgington [Episode 50]
I want to keep sharing the message because I know a lot of people have similar stories that they can share. And I want to make sure that that people get motivated to do this as well.Stephen edgington The stigma behind a struggle with pornography often prevents people from sharing…
How Does the Men of Moroni Program Help with Recovery? with Josh Otani [Episode 48]
We’re not only reconnecting with ourselves, but also with others and with God.Josh Otani Finding the right program is essential when recovering from pornography use. Knowing what is available can help you suggest resources to help friends and family. Josh Otani has been working with the Men of Moroni and…
Keep Reading How Does the Men of Moroni Program Help with Recovery? with Josh Otani [Episode 48]
Can Understanding Betrayal Trauma Help Me Be More Supportive? with Lauren Hunter [Episode 47]
I know with my trial of going through my divorce, a lot of people fall away from the church when stuff like that happens. My testimony was actually strengthened because of the choices I made to turn to Christ instead of be angry at him or blame him.Lauren hunter When…
How Can the Fortify App Help With Recovery from Pornography? with Clay Olsen [46]
Technology has allowed us to access resources that we otherwise would not have access to. And it’s a beautiful blessing that we have and that we need to harness for good.Clay Olsen Online resources for those struggling with pornography have some benefits, such as anonymity and being available to help…
Keep Reading How Can the Fortify App Help With Recovery from Pornography? with Clay Olsen [46]
Is Addiction a Life Sentence? with Cassandra Hulse [Episode 45]
As I enter recovery, I try to remember like my first identity is as a daughter of God. Being an addict, that is not my identity.Cassandra Hulse For each person struggling with pornography, the journey is individual and difficult in its own way. So how does someone know when to…
Keep Reading Is Addiction a Life Sentence? with Cassandra Hulse [Episode 45]
How Does What I Truly Want in Relationships Guide My View of Sexuality? with Nathan Leonhardt [Episode 44]
Sexual media gives us a script, or the way we should think about sexuality. It gives us an idea for how we should act on our sexuality.Nathan Leonhardt Media definitely has the potential to shape our understanding of sexuality – what we should think and how we should act. For…
How Can Mindfulness Help Me Control My Thoughts Surrounding Pornography? with Ty Mansfield [43]
It’s staying in the game, staying committed, recognizing that [training your brain] is a process over time, being mindful and bring compassion to our mindfulness practices.Ty Mansfield Thoughts often seem to pop up all on their own, which can feel discouraging when one is trying to overcome pornography. Mindfulness can…
How Can Mindfulness Help Me Approach Sexuality with Less Judgment? with Ty Mansfield [42]
If sex or sexuality is going to be integrated well into our lives, it needs to be something that’s integrated and that we can hold in a conscious, intentional, powerful way.Ty Mansfield With how many distractions there are in the world around us, learning to sit still and observe our…
Should I Be Dating if I’m Struggling with Pornography? With Brandon Fielding [41]
When we are open about and vulnerable about those deeper parts of ourselves, not only does it increase the strength of a relationship, but … it helps people realize they are not alone.BRandon fielding Dating while struggling with pornography sometimes feels like a complete no go. But Brandon Fielding thinks…
Keep Reading Should I Be Dating if I’m Struggling with Pornography? With Brandon Fielding [41]
How Can Learning About Healthy Sexuality Increase My Confidence? with Ellyse Winward [40]
I feel like I gained a lot more confidence in myself as I started learning about my sexuality. And I realized how amazing my body was, how complex it was, which started helped me feel a lot more self love towards myself.Ellyse Winward Becoming more aware of both the physical…
How Can Pornography Be Both a Problem and a Symptom? with Dr. Adam Moore [39]
It’s important to remember that when you are first trying to shift behavior, when you’re first making a big change, it takes major disruption. It takes major effort to make those shifts.Adam Moore When searching for a solution to overcome pornography, try looking at the big picture and expect the…
Keep Reading How Can Pornography Be Both a Problem and a Symptom? with Dr. Adam Moore [39]
How Can Self Compassion Help Me Break the Shame Cycle? with Anthony Ennis [Episode 38]
There’s going to come a time when you’re by yourself, when those external sources aren’t enough, when you need to be there for yourself. And self-compassion enables you to be there for yourself in any moment. Combating your inner critic while overcoming pornography can be tough. That’s why Creed and…
Keep Reading How Can Self Compassion Help Me Break the Shame Cycle? with Anthony Ennis [Episode 38]
How Can I Forgive My Parents for Being Weird About Sex and Pornography? with Vauna Davis [Episode 37]
I’m just so hopeful that younger adults will be free to experience a much more healthy dynamic in your lives now, and then pass that on.Vauna Davis No one is perfect. Not even our parents. And that is a great thing to remember when you evaluate the sex education your…
How Can We Establish Accountability in Our Marriage? with Zachary and Rachel Andrews [Episode 36]
Accountability to me means holding myself to a higher standard when I mess up and being proactive rather than reactive.Zachary Andrews Following through on commitments and holding yourself accountable to your partner is an important part of a trusting marriage. This week, Creed and Crishelle continue their conversation with Zachary…
How can we build trust in a relationship that is affected by pornography? With Zachary and Rachel Andrews [Episode 35]
I think through a lot of small actions that trust is rebuilt.Rachel Andrews Trust is essential in a relationship, whether you are first getting to know each other or have committed to be together forever. Creed and Crishelle talk with Zachary and Rachel Andrews about how they continue to work…
When is Someone Overcoming Pornography Ready to Be in a Relationship? with Karen Broadhead [Episode 34]
There’s my business, your business, and God’s business. And whenever I’m not in my business, I will be miserable.Karen Broadhead Have you wondered how to approach the subject of pornography at the beginning of a romantic relationship? In part 2 of this conversation, Creed and Crischelle talk with Karen Broadhead…
How to Support Someone Recovering from Pornography [Episode 33]
When it comes to supporting someone caught in pornography, one of the first things I learned is that fear is never helpful.Karen Broadhead Whether you’re the one supporting someone recovering from a pornography addiction, or you’re receiving support in your own healing, there’s a lot to learn about relationships. Karen…
Keep Reading How to Support Someone Recovering from Pornography [Episode 33]
Change Your Brain’s Reward Patterns with LaMonte Wilcox [Episode 32]
We aren’t stuck with the brain that we think we have. We’re not stuck. It can be changed.LaMonte Wilcox Shame, fear, and pornography addiction all create patterns of thought and behavior to meet subconscious needs. But those patterns can get in the way of the life we want. LaMonte Wilcox…
Keep Reading Change Your Brain’s Reward Patterns with LaMonte Wilcox [Episode 32]
Awakening to the Power of God to Save from Pornography with Maxwell Hill [Episode 31]
I remind myself every single day that God the Father, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Ghost are united in power and purpose to bring to pass my immortality and eternal life. What happens when you’re doing everything you know how to do to recover from using pornography, but you keep…
Keep Reading Awakening to the Power of God to Save from Pornography with Maxwell Hill [Episode 31]
Decide Who You Want to Be – with Marissah Hannig [Episode 30]
What really helped me lose the desire to consume pornography is simply the thought, that’s not who I want to become.Marissah Hannig Sexuality is talked about too much without the respect it deserves and not enough with the respect it deserves. When Marissah Hannig learned for herself what this meant,…
Keep Reading Decide Who You Want to Be – with Marissah Hannig [Episode 30]
Spirituality and Sexuality? How Singles Can Honor Both – Dr. Dean Busby [Episode 29]
I can be abstinent and still be sexually healthy. If that’s the place and time in my life and I’m making the choices, I’m not shaming myself. I’m keeping these boundaries because I’m pursuing a goal that’s incompatible with sexual permissiveness.Dr. Dean Busby For single members of the Church of…
Keep Reading Spirituality and Sexuality? How Singles Can Honor Both – Dr. Dean Busby [Episode 29]
A Story of Recovery from Pornography and Sexual Addiction [Episode 28]
“My daily life is much different now because I work a daily program that is focusing on me getting connected to my higher power. It’s on me being honest with others. It’s on me treating others better and it’s on me no longer escaping my emotions into lust or into…
Keep Reading A Story of Recovery from Pornography and Sexual Addiction [Episode 28]
Comparing Healthy and Unhealthy Sexuality – Learn More with Laura M. Brotherson [Episode 27]
I think that’s what God was thinking when he made men and women so different – both husbands and wives are gently required to work on some things that are not their natural forte in order to create what I would call wholeness.Laura M. Brotherson Let’s talk about relearning healthy…
What’s the Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Sexuality? with Laura M. Brotherson [Episode 26]
Everybody’s had a few negative experiences, vicarious trauma from seeing the news. So you’ve got to clean out some of that. That’s step one – clean out the garbage. Then start listening to positive, affirming, healthy sexual material to get that in your system.Laura M. Brotherson “Sex is God’s wedding…
Can You Have a Healthy Marriage after Leaving an Emotionally Abusive Relationship? [Episode 25]
Over time being married to this person just became more and more painful and that little voice inside me that wanted to be heard, wanted to be seen, and wanted to be acknowledged for the pain she was experiencing got louder and louder and wouldn’t leave me alone. Our anonymous…
How to Change: Understanding Recovery Principles and Plans with Alex Theobald [Episode 24]
It’s not simply just stopping the pornography, it’s more of “I want to be a healthy person.”Alex Theobald We’re all recovering from something on some level. Recovery is all about healing, growth, and change. It might be from a broken arm, a procrastination habit, or a pornography problem. Creed and…
3 Steps for Better Shame Resilience with Alex Theobald [Episode 23]
As we develop this skill of shame resilience, we find ourselves being more and more capable of turning those really human and imperfect moments into something that can be rather productive and effective.Alex Theobald Everyone can relate to that terrible feeling of wanting to shut down, disengage from people, and…
Keep Reading 3 Steps for Better Shame Resilience with Alex Theobald [Episode 23]
Building Confidence for Talking About Bodies with Harper Defreitas [Episode 22]
It’s really important to know these terms, be comfortable with it, and know your body, because you are a sexual being. You are in charge of your sexuality and your sexual experience. Most of us grew up feeling awkward about saying the names of sexual body parts and how bodies…
Keep Reading Building Confidence for Talking About Bodies with Harper Defreitas [Episode 22]
Should Young Adults Learn About Sexuality While They’re Waiting for Marriage? With Harper Defreitas [Episode 21]
I love the doctrine behind healthy sexuality that sex is God-sanctioned. He made our bodies perfectly. There were no mistakes. It wasn’t like, “Oops, oh no, I messed up. That wasn’t supposed to be there.”Harper Defreitas Some people wonder if it’s appropriate to get educated or talk about sexuality with…
How to Talk About Pornography with Someone You’re Dating [Episode 20]
Talk about your emotions with your partner. For example, I’m feeling afraid to bring this up or talk about this. I’m feeling kind of shaken right now, but I’m doing the best I can to listen. Creed Orme Once you get started, how do you keep talking? Creed and Crishelle…
Keep Reading How to Talk About Pornography with Someone You’re Dating [Episode 20]
When is the Right Time to Talk to Someone You’re Dating About Pornography? [Episode 19]
I don’t want to have that conversation today, but I just wanted to give you a heads up that it’s really important to me. And sometime in the next two weeks, let’s make that conversation happen.Crishelle Simons No need to worry about when to start talking about the issue of…
Keep Reading When is the Right Time to Talk to Someone You’re Dating About Pornography? [Episode 19]
Why Talk About Pornography with Someone You’re Dating? [Episode 18]
As you begin to practice these types of conversations with the people that you’re dating, you’ll get better. You’ll learn, you’ll fail, which is great ’cause that’s the only way you can learn. Crishelle Simons Creed and Crishelle share 3 reasons why it’s important to talk about pornography with your…
Keep Reading Why Talk About Pornography with Someone You’re Dating? [Episode 18]
How to Create a Healing Bond of Connection – with Weston Smith [Episode 17]
“What I’ve learned from having a community is that recovery is so much fun and it’s so invigorating!”Weston Smith Weston shares how powerful it has been to confide in people about his problem with pornography. Starting with his mom, a good friend, a recovery group, and now with guests and…
Keep Reading How to Create a Healing Bond of Connection – with Weston Smith [Episode 17]
Coach or Cheerleader – Which Works Best? Supporting Each Other’s Recovery from Pornography with Alma and Karen Thurber [Episode 16]
Seeing her sincerely praying and reading her scriptures and working on her own recovery inspires me to be a better person more than any other coaching or even cheerleading would do. Alma Thurber Alma and Karen Thurber return (together this time!) to share what they’ve learned about supporting each other’s…
We’ve All Seen It. Let’s Start Talking! With Jason McDonald [Episode 15]
I want to be as happy as I can. And pornography gets in the way. Jason McDonald Creed and Crishelle talk with Jason McDonald, a 22-year-old student and former Reach 10 intern, about his story. Jason had a brief habit of using pornography when he was 13, and then decided…
Keep Reading We’ve All Seen It. Let’s Start Talking! With Jason McDonald [Episode 15]
Understanding Healthy Belief Systems and Passion Styles with Dr. Dean Busby [Episode 14]
A harmonious passion style is in harmony and balance with your values and the other parts of your life. It feels respectful of your partner and your own needs. It doesn’t overwhelm you to the point where you can’t stop or you’re just fixated on it.Dean Busby Creed and Crishelle…
A Little Info = Huge Difference in New Marriages with Dr. Dean Busby [Episode 13]
It felt like as we dug into the sexuality, we don’t have the goal, we just have the don’ts in our culture. Don’t do this, don’t do that, don’t do. And then magically have a good marriage and sexual relationship. Dr. Dean Busby If the sex education you got consisted…
Keep Reading A Little Info = Huge Difference in New Marriages with Dr. Dean Busby [Episode 13]
3 Tools for Healing Your Heart When Your Spouse is Recovering from Pornography with Karen Thurber [Episode 12]
I expect 100% honesty and I have to give 100% honesty. Sometimes it’s easy for me to downplay what I’m feeling, but I expect myself to be honest and I expect my spouse to be honest. Karen Thurber Creed and Crishelle talk with Karen Thurber, a young wife, mom, and…
3 Tools for Breaking a Pornography Habit with Alma Thurber [Episode 11]
“Boundaries are ideally tailored to the specific person – knowing what your vulnerabilities are – to help avoid pitfalls that have happened in the past.” Alma Thurber Creed and Crishelle talk with Alma Thurber, a young husband, new father, and university student, about 3 of his top tools for recovery…
Keep Reading 3 Tools for Breaking a Pornography Habit with Alma Thurber [Episode 11]
Seeing Subtle Harmful Expectations Created by Sexual Media with Bonnie Young [Episode 10]
We need to dive into the subtleties that we’ve bought into because of sexual media. They are sneaking into our relationships and really causing a lot of pain. Bonnie Young How are we being influenced by the sexual media that surrounds us? Creed and Crishelle talk with Bonnie Young, therapist…
Episode 9. Do You Shy Away From Sensitive Subjects?
So the solution was let’s not talk about it ‘cause it felt so uncomfortable and so awkward and sometimes still does – like either we’re making dirty jokes or it’s just silence. Crishellle simons Creed and Crishelle share thoughts on why young adults really do want to talk more openly…
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Changing the How, When, and Why of Teaching Kids About Sexuality with Dr. Laura Padilla-Walker [Episode 8]
Sometimes the only conversation kids have ever had about sexuality is about pornography – because parents are pretty good about talking about pornography, but they don’t talk about healthy sexuality. Laura Padilla-walker “Where do babies come from?” Most of our parents dreaded that question! But lucky for us young adults,…
Episode 7. Zachary Andrews: Building Recovery through Real Relationships
When your heart is open to truth, I guess you realize, “Oh, this is not where I should be and I can be better – there’s more to life than me just doing this for the rest of my life.”Zachary Andrews Creed and Crishelle talk to Zachary Andrews about his…
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Episode 6. Amanda Christenson: Boundaries – What They Are and Why You Need Them
You can’t control how other people react to your boundaries. And so it’s all about “What can I do? What’s in my power?” My power isn’t about changing anyone else, but I can make my own choices for myself. Amanda christenson What does recovery from porn addiction look like for…
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Episode 5. Travis Spencer: Couples Recovering Together from Pornography
That’s the beautiful part of the recovery process: When we get through it, we have the opportunity to turn around and help others that are going through the same issues we’ve been through.Travis Spencer Travis Spencer, MFT is a newly-graduated young therapist, but he’s already spent years studying how couples…
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Episode 4. Cassy Hulse: Open Your Heart to Women Silently Struggling with Porn Addiction
The greatest thing I’ve gained in 3 years of recovery is learning who I am without pornography. And I love it. I love who I am without pornography, and I never felt that way about myself before.Cassandra hulse Pornography isn’t just a guy problem. It’s a human problem. Cassandra (Cassy)…
Episode 3. Nathan and Shelby Astle: Open Communication in Relationships When Pornography Is an Issue
How can young couples navigate the tough topic of pornography when one is working to stop using it? Nate and Shelby started this conversation while dating and are still relying on the power of open communication in their marriage. Hear what they mean by not letting pornography define a person…
Episode 2. Rachel Denton – Healthy Sexuality is About Sharing
Creed and Crishelle talk with Rachel Denton and dive into the topic of healthy sexuality. As a young adult, she’s already been deeply involved in projects and organizations helping people overcome pornography. She recently graduated with a Master’s degree in social work, works at Fight the New Drug, and is…
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Episode 1. Meet Our Hosts, Creed and Crishelle
It’s our first podcast! Meet our hosts Creed and Crishelle. These young adults have unique experiences that help them understand that shame hurts and love heals. Hear their stories about why they are advocates for healthy sexuality and freedom from the impact of pornography.
Episode 0. All About the Breaking the Silence Podcast in 5 Short Minutes
It’s about time we talked about things that are actually impacting our lives.creed orme Hear what this podcast is all about! All young adults have been affected by pornography in some way. The way to combat the problems is talking about it with honesty, integrity, and wholeheartedness – that is…
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Meet our hosts, Creed and Crishelle
Creed is a Brigham Young University undergraduate student pursuing a degree in marriage and family therapy. He enjoys an active lifestyle with volleyball, ultimate frisbee, and dance. He strives for connection to self, others, and God.
Having overcome most of the shame surrounding his sexuality, including breaking away from a pornography addiction in his adolescence, Creed decided to join Reach 10 in 2017. He advocates for healthy attitudes and behaviors concerning sexuality and for building real connection in his community.
Like a true Hufflepuff, Creed seeks after truth and strives to spread principles that help others to live wholehearted lives.
Crishelle loves to play and grow. She is happiest with her husband George on a powder day at the ski hill, on a slalom ski on smooth water, mountain biking as the sun sets, camping under the stars, climbing a new rock-climbing route, eating a delicious pastry, and laughing at a good joke. She is passionate about helping other people to step out of their comfort zones and into the growth zone.
Crishelle has been affected by sex addiction throughout her life and felt firsthand the devastation and chaos that comes from unhealthy sexuality. These experiences have helped her to develop a passion for helping people learn principles and tools to develop healthy sexuality and live a life full of love, hope, connection and courage.
Crishelle graduated from Brigham Young University in Recreation Therapy and works as a recreation therapist helping people overcome addiction. She is a founding member of Reach 10.