Once your spouse knows that you’re still going to be there for them, whatever comes out of their mouth, that you’re going to love and respect and hold space for them, then the conversations get easier.Bree Swaner
Being in a relationship with someone who is struggling with pornography is not easy. That’s why when Bree Swaner found herself in that situation, she worked to create a support system so that she could properly support her husband. This week, Creed and Crishelle talk with Bree about how working through betrayal trauma is the first step to being able to be at peace with your partner’s struggles and how you can start having the tough conversations in your home.
In this episode:
- Don’t be afraid to ask your partner the hard questions about their struggle so you can fully understand the situation.
- Take time for yourself when you learn of your partner’s pornography use so you can work through the emotions.
- Don’t take responsibility for your partner’s actions.
- Look for support groups with members who are going through similar struggles with betrayal trauma.
Bree Ann (Bree) Swaner is originally from Taylorsville, Utah but moved to Des Moines Iowa in the summer of 2018. She is 26. She has been happily married to her husband Ian for two years.
She served a mission in Eugene Oregon and currently works as a Special Education Associate in a Severe & Profound classroom mostly with students who are wheelchair bound and use eye-gaze communication devices to talk.
She enjoys spending time learning about marriage, relationships, and sexuality. Recently, she created an online support group via Facebook for Women in relationships with individuals who struggle with pornography.
Facebook group: Wives of Porn Addicts: A support group for the supportive
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